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Depression is defined as:

1.  Severe despondency and dejection, accompanied by feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy.

2.  A condition of mental disturbance, typically with lack of energy and difficulty in maintaining concentration or interest in life.

However, Depression Doesn’t Exist!    

Now that I have your attention and possibly your anger, please, keep reading!  For anyone who experiences depression or has come through it, the feelings associated with it are very real.  However, one of the most valuable lessons I learned from my four years of Gestalt Psycho-therapy training was that depression in and of itself does not exist – it is a mental and physiological response to one of two things:  repressed anger or repressed sadness.  Think of it as holding a ball full of air underneath the water.  Everyone knows that it is difficult to do because the displaced air within the ball forces it to ascend upwards and we have to forcefully hold it to keep it under the water. When we do eventually let it go; it flies out of the water upwards proportionately to how deep we were holding it under.

This is very similar to what happens when we are holding anger or sadness within us – it wants to come up and be expressed – but we may not want to see it on the surface.  The problem with this is, the more we repress our anger or sadness, the less we can actually feel joy or happiness.  This is why it is crucial that we allow our anger and sadness to come to the surface so that our hands – and our entire being – is open to experience the joy and happiness life has to offer as well.

The fact that depression in most cases is a result of holding on to negative feelings – and negative energy – is very good news.  While depression feels like a heavy weight upon our shoulders or quicksand that we feel powerless to become free from – anger and sadness are simply emotions that have been trapped within our bodies in response to an experience – and we can be free of them, which in turn will eventually help lift the feelings associated with our depression.

How do we do this?   

I am certainly not going to advise for or against anti-depressants; but  sometimes they can be a TEMPORARY solution to severe depression until we can process and deal with the sadness or anger in which we are holding.  Times in my life that I have experienced depression I did not take drugs and I was able to work through it and come out the other side and that is what I want to share with you today.   The truth is there is no quick fix to dealing with depression.  If one is in this state, even affirmations and trying to lift our vibrational energy may not work – although they cannot hurt either!

Step # 1We need to first identify what emotion is causing the depression – is it anger or is it sadness?  And very often, even behind our anger lies sadness or disappointment over something that has happened to us.  For example, if someone has said or did something very hurtful to us, we are likely to have felt sadness but masked it with anger very quickly in order to deal with it and ‘feel stronger’.  Often we mask our sadness with anger in order to have the strength to stand up to or say goodbye to a particular person or situation in our lives.  How many times have we thought we originally felt anger towards someone and then a few days later, realize that we are actually sad about what happened?

Step # 2:  What are we feeling sad or angry about? The problem with trying to discover what and why we are feeling what we are is that many times by the time our bodies have gone into a depressed state, the actual original hurt or event has long since passed.  It may even have been something in our childhood originally and has been triggered again by something in our adult lives.

So how on earth do we get to the heart of the issue and figure out how and why we are feeling this way?  It isn’t easy. This is the step at which most people feel the most resistance – especially if the hurt did originate – and most do – in our childhood.  We have buried it so deeply and so strategically in order to not have had to deal with it – usually because we were too young to do so or simply not equipped – that there are a few layers that we have to peel away first.  It is necessary that we realize this is a process – and that is what I want to stress here – growth and healing of any kind is a process.  When we cut our finger, our bodies have a wonderful – some would even say miraculous – ability to heal the wound.  This does not happen overnight however; but we can apply ointments that expedite the process.  This is where therapeutic modalities come in – they can include anything from journaling, talking with a friend, talking with a trained psychologist, E.F.T (Emotional Freedom Technique), Reiki, Acupuncture and many more.  You need to discover which one works best for you. In the meantime, I will share with you some practical techniques you can do in the privacy of your own home.

Step # 3:  Writing to Heal 

I have done this several times and I cannot stress enough how powerful – and effective – a technique it is to get at the heart of many of our repressed emotions and physical ailments.  What we do is actually journal with the Depression – almost as if it is a person – or the physical issue – directly.  Why not give it a try? If it doesn’t work then you haven’t lost anything; if it does, I would love to hear back from you as to how it helped.

Dear Depression: 

You have taken over my body, slowed me down, made me feel lethargic and really awful some days.  You must be doing this for a reason.  Please, what is it that you are trying to tell me?  What real emotions are you trying to hold onto for me?  I know you are not my enemy.  I know that you are attempting to protect me from my real emotions.  Please help me to figure out what these are.

Take a few seconds and then respond from the Depression’s point of view – in other words, give it a voice.

Dear (Your Name):

Here is where you allow – freely and without judgement – your Depression (and you do not have to be severely depressed at all, you may just simply feel down or not so great) tell you what is really going on with you.  You may be surprised by what it tells you or it may make a lot of sense.  The trick is to allow it a voice.

This is the same for ailments in the body – another manifestation of repressed hurts, emotions or beliefs that have surfaced in a physical form.  It does not matter if this is a small annoyance such as a hemorrhoid or if it is cancer.  Our bodies are the mediator between our core inner self – our subconscious – and our minds.  They are constantly giving us messages. When our leg falls asleep and we begin to feel pins and needles, our body is communicating to us that we need to move and stop cutting off the blood supply to our extremities.  Why does it do this?  To protect us.  Why do our bodies develop “dis – ease”?  Because we are “out” of “ease” with our true selves and our bodies want to return to homeostasis and ease again – and it will help us do this if we are willing to give it a voice.

Dear Hemorrhoid/ Dear Cancer:  Again, allow yourself to be really honest about how you are feeling towards it.  Maybe you hate your cancer or your disease.  Tell it that.  It can handle it because it is in your body to tell you something as well.  Then let it.

Give your depression, anger, sadness and your pain – whether it be emotional or physical, a VOICE today.  Let it communicate to you in plain language what it has been trying to tell you silently.  Once you “hear” it – you may well be on your way to recovery and freedom.

Below is a website that delineates the Myths and Facts regarding Depression:   

http://www.webmd.com/depression/ss/slideshow-depression-myths

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Transforming Our Selves by Transforming Our Cells!

Death and life are in the power of the tongue {Proverbs 18:21} 

Do we truly understand the power of our words over own cellular make-up and ultimately our lives? 

Many people refer to the belief that we can heal our own bodies and create our lives by our thoughts, words and actions as “new age”.

There is nothing new about this knowledge:  In fact, this wisdom has been in existence as long as humankind has, in terms of what our divine creator has been telling us:

And God said, let the earth bring forth grass, the herb yielding seed, and the fruit tree yielding fruit after his kind whose seed is in itself, upon the earth:  and it was so.  And the earth brought forth grass and herb yielding seed after his kind, and the tree yielding fruit, whose seed was in itself, after his kind: and God saw that it was good {Genesis 1:11-12}

Our divine creator spoke out what he wanted to create and it came to pass.  He spoke out only good; pure, wonderful things and that’s what came into existence.  This same message is throughout scripture; that we do indeed have the power to create both good and bad within our own bodies and our lives; and therefore we need to take great care about how and what we speak.

So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things.  How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire. {James 3:5}

Our Divine creator has also taught us that what we think becomes our words and our words become our actions and our actions then create our lives.  Therefore, even the smallest of things we say, positive or negative can start a “blazing fire” in our lives.   However, if we pay attention to what we think; we will actually have to worry less about what comes out of our mouths:

A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. {Luke 6:45}

Have you ever asked yourself what you think in your heart?  Of yourself?  Of your neighbour? Of your job? Of your life partner?  Of the world?

This is extremely important; because even if you learn to love yourself; you also need to love your neighbour – even if he’s cantankerous and blows his leaves on your lawn after you’ve finished mulching all of your own.  Yes, I might be referring to one of my past neighbours, but I swear I’ve forgiven him!

Why?  Because whatever you think in your heart about others; so are you.  Even if you treat yourself and your family well; but hate or curse your neighbour, (or co-worker) your thoughts and words not only affect him or her – and keep them trapped in the same patterns of behaviour – they also affect you.

We are made up of approximately 100 trillion cells and each one has an intelligence – and each one contains our complete genetic makeup.   So if we were to take just one cell from our body – and Bruce Lipton, a former University of Wisconsin professor of cellular biology, turned writer and healer, did just this – we would have our entire genetic composition of “who” we are in that one cell.  It contains everything about us.

Think of 100 trillion little versions of you all working together in a symbiotic, wonderful tapestry.  What would you say to each one of these trillion cells if you could talk to them?  Would you curse them?  Criticize them?  Berate them?  Keep exposing them to toxic people, environments or situations?  Keep repeating to them that they are sick, cursed, not working well, or in pain?  I doubt it!

So, why do we often do this to our entire being?

We begin to feel sick and what do we do?  We consistently repeat that we are not feeling well, or are about to get sick, not only to ourselves, but to our family, our coworkers and heck, to just about anyone we meet on the street whose willing to listen to our “cold” woes!

When we first think it or say it, what do our 100 trillion cells and their infinite intelligence do?  They do what they are divinely programmed to do – to send out messages to our white blood cells to heal us.

However, each time we speak that we are sick, getting sick, in pain, have this or that ailment – even when we constantly repeat a diagnosis we are given by a medical doctor, our 100 trillion cells also hear this and begin to “believe” it and this actually blocks our immune system from healing us.

Our cells, though they are fighting like crazy to keep us in optimal health and in symbiosis, every time we speak to them that we are sick – whatever it be, a cold, cancer, blood disease – they are not only being blocked from doing their divine work – they are also being programmed by us to receive negative messages and to allow these illnesses to linger and wreak havoc in our bodies! And do you know what these “ill” cells do?  They take pleasure in taking over the healthy cells.  Don’t believe me?  Read the article below that illustrates how scientists have found smiley faces in cancer cells!

I instead, like to imagine each of my little cells that huddle together and call themselves ‘me’ as healthy, little smiley faces; all brimming with life and hope and innocence, ready to perform their daily functions; only requiring one thing from me:  To extend them love and respect for what they do for me every day by how I think about them; speak over them and to what I expose them.

Now, you might think I’ve lost a few of these cells in my brain and only have a few marbles rolling around upstairs as you read what I’m writing in this post.  However, there is NOW scientific proof of three wonderful things and you can read about them in either of Bruce Lipton’s Biology of Belief or in Joe Dispenza’s book,  Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself:

1.  Disease is NOT genetic!

2.  Our cells regenerate at the rate of 10, 000 per second (which means we are not the “same” person we were, even a week ago, unless of course we keep telling all of our wonderful new cells the old, limiting stories we told our previous ones.)

3.  We have the power to prevent illness and injury; and to heal ourselves, one beautiful, little smiling cell at a time!

Bruce Lipton, author of Biology of Belief, (please see video below to understand the science behind his theories) who once prescribed to the scientific belief – and taught it to medical students for years – that disease is genetic, actually proved himself, and the whole scientific community as we know it – wrong.

He discovered that when he took one “ill” cell from a cancer patient’s body and put it in a petri dish and into a “positive” or neutral environment; that cell began to heal itself and became healthy again.  When he returned that cell to the negative, (sick) environment from which it originally came; it began to show signs of illness once again.

From his extensive findings, he has come to the conclusion that disease is in fact, not genetic but comes about by people being exposed to prolonged negative or toxic environments.  The clincher is that some were not “in” a toxic environment in terms of their family or work; but simply thought, spoke and acted negatively towards themselves, others or their external environment on a consistent basis; hence, exposing their 100 trillion cells every day to a toxic “home” – their own bodies!  Life or death IS IN the tongue!

The cells were being programmed to receive negative messages and therefore, were in a constant state of stress and began to “search for” or mutate themselves into a physiological state better able (tougher, if you will) to survive in this negative environment.  In other words, if we bombard ourselves – our cells – with toxic energy, the positive cells, in order to survive, actually mutate to a negative or toxic state in order to “fit in” with their environment.  What are diseased cells – particularly cancer – if not, very resistant, stubborn and “fighters” for what they want, which is to take over the body and survive anyway that they can?

We understand this in the sense that we have clichés that state:  one bad apple ruins the whole barrel or we hear people say:  That person has gone off the straight and narrow path, because he’s been hanging out with the wrong crowd!   Essentially, we have seen time and again how a person becomes like the people he spends time with.

Movies base their whole plot around this concept that we as humans have a natural propensity to change ourselves – our thoughts, words and behaviours in order to “fit in” within a group or even our environment in order to survive.  If our entire beings do this; why would we not believe our individual cells that make us up, have the same propensity?

It is difficult for us to get our heads around the fact that we have the power to negatively or positively change or alter the state of our own cells, because it means taking full responsibility for our beliefs and mindsets, thoughts, words and actions and the environment in which we choose to expose our trillion cells to every day.

This is fantastic news however; because if we have the power to transform or mutate our cells negatively; we have the exact opposite power – to transform and heal our cells positively!

If you cannot wrap your head around this scientifically, then let me help you in terms of what Jesus said to his disciples when they were worried about the kinds of things they should or should not eat and Jesus tells them that it is NOT what goes into the mouth of a person, but what comes out of a person’s mouth:

It is the thought-life that pollutes.  For from within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts of lust, theft, murder, adultery,  wanting what belongs to others, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, pride, and all other folly.  All these vile things come from within; they are what pollute you and make you unfit for God.  {Mark 7:20}

For over 2000 years – again this wisdom is NOTHING new – we have had this knowledge at our finger tips.

Isn’t it time, we began to not only believe God and what he’s been telling us for centuries and begin to realize that:

As I think in my heart; so am I {Proverbs 23:7}

Perhaps we need to ask, in what areas in our heart do we need to begin to think and speak differently, especially towards ourselves – our cells – and of course, the world around us?  Start speaking love, peace and healing over yourself and over the world – focus and speak out what IS right within it – and stop giving power to all of the negative that the media presents to us every day.

Are our 100 trillion cells not worth the effort to think, speak and act in accordance with what is pure and lovely and praiseworthy when they work so hard for us every single day?  Imagine if our body creates 10, 000 new cells every second; that if we start right this minute thanking them, speaking kind loving words over them, how much better we will feel by the end of the day today and how much positive transformation we could produce in our bodies and in our lives in just one month or one year? So what are you feeding your beautiful 100 trillion cells every day?   The power is within us, not without!

To quote Morgan Freeman in the film, Shawshank Redemption, are we going to “get busy living; or get busy dying”?

Bruce Lipton’s Biology of Belief:

Smiley faces in cancer cells article:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2087723/Researchers-spot-smiley-face-cancer-cell-Happy-face-forms-lab-created-tumour.htmlhttp://