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Fence Posts: The Role Aunts and Uncles Play in Our Lives

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Aunts and Uncles are Like Fence – Guide – Posts in Our Lives

I find myself grieving for my Aunt that I just lost a week ago.  It wasn’t clear to me how much sadness I felt over her passing until I awoke from a dream last night – in the dream, I was sitting on my cousin’s bed, crying in her arms about losing my Aunt and what I said in my dream was this:  “It’s like we’re losing all of our fence posts.  And I feel so helpless; like I can’t do anything to hang on to them.  No matter how much praying I do, I can’t save them or bring them back.”

When I awoke, I realized, perhaps for the first time in my life, just how important – and what a significant role my aunts and uncles have played in my life.  Our grandparents, on my mother’s side were blessed with eleven children, which made for 22 aunts and uncles in total.  Which is a wonderful blessing; until it comes time to say goodbye to them due to illness or aging.  Then, it feels like a part of you is being lopped off every time one passes from this physical world.  It’s so much blessing – and so much to lose.

I realized that my aunts and uncles have been so much more than simply relatives to love and get to know or laugh with – they have been fence posts, keeping the “protective twine” around our family.  They are, so to speak, the wiser, older sheep of the flock that keep safe the young lambs as they grow up.

They have taught us so many things.

I remember most vividly many of my aunts and uncles coming to visit and playing cards late into the evening with my parents and what always stands out in my mind, besides their boisterous – and sometimes cantankerous behaviour – is their laughter and simple enjoyment of spending time together around the dinner table.  There was so much laughter!

I remember one incident in particular with my aunt who most recently passed away.   Now, she was full of laughter and joy; but she also had a very stern – some would call it frightening to a young, impressionable child – way about her and she expected above else, that we nieces and nephews show respect to our elders.

She was not short on discipline or advice and I remember her saying something to me that I didn’t quite hear or understand – and my response was my casual, ten-year-old, “What?”  Well, she grabbed a hold of me by the elbows and said these words to me that were forever seared into my brain:  “You don’t say ‘What’!  You say pardon!”

I can thank my Aunt for that because I am sure for the rest of my life, I have always said pardon – rarely “what?” whenever I haven’t quite heard something right.  It’s funny how afraid we were to repeat the error and yet there was never a harsh hand – only timely given words – from our aunts and uncles.

I cannot begin to write how many lessons my aunts and uncles have taught me over the years; but here are a few “Guide/Fence posts” they surrounded all of us with:

1.  Respect your elders.

2.  When life gets hard, stand together and find the humour in it.

3.  Celebrate life whenever you can and focus on the positive because “There’s no ill wind that doesn’t bring some good.”

4.  Appreciate what you have every day and work hard.

5.  Be a good steward of money.  Rarely borrow and rarely loan.

6.  Family is everything.   Spend quality time together.

7.  If you get married; try to stay married and work things out!

8.  Tease, have fun; but be kind and compassionate.

9.  Give of yourself and volunteer your time.

10.  Learn all you can while you’re here; laugh as much as possible and love each other above all else.

Aunt Lois: you scared the heck out of me sometimes and you made me laugh more times than I can remember.  I miss you and I cannot wait until we are all together again!  Thank you for being a part of this family and being such an important guidepost in all of our lives!

We will always remember you!

If there’s an aunt or uncle – or many – that you know have been an important guidepost in your life, I encourage you to tell them today!

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God or doG Wisdom? Ten Life Lessons According to Canines!

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We should never underestimate animals and what they have to teach us about life!

Recently, after observing my two dogs – Francesca, a 7-year-old Maltese, from the Island of Malta and Jack (Jacque Cousteau), a 6-year-old Yorkshire Terrier, from England – I have come to the conclusion that they have many lessons about life – and about God’s love – to teach me.

Here they are listed Letterman style:

#10:   When you wake up in the morning, before you do anything else, S-T-R-E-T-C-H!  A big long, extended stretch and Y-A-W-N!  This increases blood flow to our muscles and joints and oxygen to our brain!  I also believe reaching our hands above our heads is a way to surrender the day to God and ask him to ‘stretch’ us each day in those places where we’ve become atrophied!

#9:  Have a bowel movement and keep regular.  Need I say more?

#8:  Eat breakfast – and thank God for our DAILY bread each morning just as my dogs thank me for providing them their breakfast by coming up and licking me afterwards.  The dog-food breath is not great, but at least I know they’ve eaten what I have given them.  I think God also needs to know that we have received our nourishment from him each day and that we appreciate what he gives us on a daily basis.

#7:  Walk.  Run.  Play.  Get exercise and get excited about life!  My dog Jack literally squeals when he knows we’re going outside.  He is so excited from the moment he wakes up in the moment that he buries his head in the blankets and snowplows through them, not caring that his hair and his big ears are completely dishevelled – looking a little bit like the Tasmanian devil.  He’s completely ready for the new day, excited about the simple things in life: Eating, playing, running, eating some more, napping, playing some more and chewing on his bone!  Let’s get excited about our day!

#6:  Be Affectionate:  The first thing my dogs do, is come up and shove their little faces in mine in the morning, ready to give me a kiss and pat me with their paws for me to reciprocate their love.  Who wouldn’t want this kind of love and affection when we wake up in the morning?  Do we give our partner/spouse this kind of attention before we get out of bed in the morning?  Maybe we should!  And if we are receiving this kind of attention, do not take it for granted or push it away!  First of all, it hurts the other person and if you knew tomorrow that person might be there to give you this kind of love; you might be very glad to receive it.  At the very least, do it for all of your single friends who don’t have that kind of affection in their lives at the moment!

#5:  Be Persistent:  If you want or need something, don’t give up or give in!  My dog Franny will pat me with her paws, whine and carry on until I finally notice her and put her on my lap.  Although it’s not always convenient to have her in my arms, especially when I’m writing, she won’t give up until I do!  She always gets what she wants – eventually out of sheer persistence!

#4:  Be Single-Focused:  Although sometimes it’s frustrating when my dog Jack will not let go of his bone, even when I’m trying to give him a better, new one; I admire the fact that he is single focused on it when he has it!   Perhaps if we were like this, we would demonstrate more excellence in certain areas of our lives, instead of multi-tasking and doing a mediocre job at many things.  If you’re having a conversation with someone, put away your phone. If you’re talking with your child; stop whatever else you’re doing and really see your child.  We need to be more single focused in our relationships with people.  My dogs NEVER make me feel like there’s someone else or something else they’d rather be paying attention to – I wish I could say I never make them feel this way!

#3:  Look People in the Eye:  My dogs always look me in the eye and it makes me melt.  There is something powerful when we look people in the eye because we make a connection with them that says, I see you and I am allowing you to see me.  Be transparent and open with people!

#2:  Be Forgiving and Forgetful!  Jack and Franny, even when I scold them or spank them for peeing or doing something they shouldn’t be doing; they might disappear into the bedroom for a short time, but they never stay there long nor do they go ruminate for hours about what a terrible person I am!  They are right back out in my presence, loving me as if they’ve completely forgotten – maybe they actually do – and forgiven me.  How wonderful would life be if we all had short-term memories sometimes?

And #1:  Drumroll please…

Remember God loves you!  If you’ve ever had a pet, you know that even though they may do wrong or go off the trail and get themselves into burrs, thistles, fleas or ticks; and it might drive us crazy when we have to spend hours grooming them, picking through their fur or getting soaked when we bathe them; we also know that nothing they do diminishes or takes away our love for them.  If we, in our limited human capacity for love – can feel and exhibit such great amounts of it for our pets even when they “miss the mark”; how much more loving is our God?  How much more can he look past our inadequacies and “bad” behaviour?  This is called Grace and He promised us that it would “super-abound” from Him!

And that, my friends, are just some of the things that my dogs have taught me about life and about God’s love.

Want a new “leash” on life?  Go observe your pets for a while to remind yourself of how loved you are!

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Shining Our Light: How and why do we do it?

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Shining Our Light for Others Without Fear!

Most of us have heard the expression that, we need to shine our light to the world, but what does that mean exactly?

I had an interesting – illuminating experience lately that demonstrated to me what this expression means and how beautiful of a blessing it can be for the object – person, situation or the entire world – on which we are shining our light, but also what gets reflected back to us in doing so.

During the holidays of this year, I was asked to go to Niagara Falls – in fact, I was supposed to go there for New Year’s Eve to finally witness the grand illumination of the falls which I have heard about many times, but have never seen in person.  It isn’t an invitation a girl turns down lightly!

In fact, turning down things – listening to my own G.P.S. – God Positioning System – isn’t something I have a lot of practice in.  I generally live my life with the belief that we must suck the marrow out of life and go in the direction of our dreams (Henry David Thoreau), no matter what.  At times, this belief has led me to travel and meet extraordinary people and see marvelous things.  At other times, this impetuous nature, as my mother likes to call it – I like to call it spontaneity – has led me down paths that perhaps were not the easiest or the most pleasant to be on; and in God’s grace, he’s had to recalculate me back to a better one!

In this particular instance, being invited to see Niagara Falls on New Year’s Eve, I listened to my G.P.S. and declined the offer.  I knew that going down that path – even though the physical destination was going to be amazing – the journey to and from it, would not.  In other words, the person I was going to go with was someone who my G.P.S. had been telling me was not the right path to be heading down.

I declined and instantly felt the disappointment of it and as the season progressed, I repeated to myself that perhaps I should have gone; that I should have walked through that door when it opened.  However, at some point, I realized that by going over it in my mind, I was stuck in the past – of what could have been and I was stealing any joy from the present every time I thought of it.  So, I surrendered it up to God and told him, one day I’d like to see the illuminated waterfalls.

What we don’t often realize is what is taking place behind the scenes in our lives and if we did, I’m sure we’d be much more inclined to surrender things and let God put them into place for us.  What I didn’t know was that my close friends were not only moving to Niagara Falls, but that I would receive another invitation shortly after the holidays that would forever illuminate my life!

My friends, a lovely couple that I’ve known for over five years now, were eagerly awaiting my visit to see their new place and have dinner with them, but because of circumstances in  my life, I hadn’t had the time to go – nor did I really want to do the drive alone, to be honest.

However, after they asked me several times, I decided that it was time to simply make the commitment and go.  It was a Saturday evening that I planned to drive there and early in the afternoon, just before I was about to leave, I got a phone call that one of my favourite and closest aunts had passed away suddenly.  I was very sad, upset and of course, began to think that I should just stay home and tell my friends that it was too much to come and visit.

However, I suddenly remembered that another friend of mine had told me that she had never seen Niagara Falls in the winter time, and I decided to invite her along for the company.  She said she’d love to come and was very excited about seeing the falls.  I told her, however that my friends didn’t live right in the area and we’d probably just be seeing the waterfalls from a distance.

When we arrived for dinner, we shared a lovely meal with my friends and after dinner, my friend Jay, said, “Let’s get you girls in the car.  I want to show you something.”  I couldn’t imagine what, but we obliged him, got our coats on and piled in the car.

As he began to drive towards the falls, I assumed he was just going to drive by them so we could see them.  When he pulled in and up around an old circular stone building and parked, I had no idea what we were doing.  He got out and said, “Follow me girls!”  We followed him to an old steel door and he knocked on it, holding a cup of coffee for someone I assumed was inside.  When we entered, Jay introduced us to an older gentleman who worked in the dilapidated old building.  “Girls, ” Jay said, “how would you like to not only see the lights of Niagara Falls, but actually be able to change the colour of them?”

He led us out another steel door on the other side and instantly, we heard the roar of the falls just metres away.  The first thing I saw were huge, beaming lights – of purple, red, blue and yellow casting their beautiful beams over the parkway towards the illuminated falls.

We entered a tiny galley like room and were shown these contraptions that looked liked computers from the 1980’s era.  There on the screen were buttons, the same colours as the beaming lights and we could choose whatever ones we liked, and then step out into the cold night air and watch as the roaring waterfalls, changed their colour to what we chose for them, right before our eyes.  I cannot express my or my friend’s  excitement at that moment – it was like we were two little girls given a puppy at Christmas.  Our childhood enthusiasm exuded from us as we played with these mammoth, colourful lights.

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As I watched not only the Canadian, but also the American waterfalls change the colours that I chose from a remote computer, I realized some invaluable lessons:

Firstly, I had listened to my G.P.S. – my intuition – a month earlier and surrendered the idea – and hope – of seeing the falls illuminated during the winter season and here I was not only seeing them, but actually controlling their illumination and the experience of it was pure joy.  I realized that whatever it is we think is being taken from us or delayed; God will restore it – bring it to us in His time, better than we could possibly imagine.

Secondly, I learned how important it is to shine our lights out to the world, because we each have our own unique colours to shine for people and when we do this, it also becomes an illuminating experience for us as well.

Thirdly, as I watched the remote stage lights send forth their light; the beams were very visible in the mist of the falls and I became aware that they are made of millions of light particles and lit up the entire night sky as well.  Isn’t this like our light, when we shine it out to the world, it isn’t simply the person we are shining it on, but people around us that also can see and feel it’s brilliance?

Fourthly; many times in my life I have hid my “light under a bushel” {Luke 8:16-18} because I was afraid that I was too much for people.  As the youngest of seven, you get told this a lot as your older siblings do not want to hang out and play ‘Barbies’ with you, despite how exciting you think it might be!  I was also told this by teachers because I asked too many questions; friends, because I thought differently than most kids; and in relationships because they thought my hair was “too big, I wore too much make-up, I was too smart, too pretty, too “out there” or “too” something!

The best thing, my sister Denise ever taught me, after she made a video of my life, accompanied by Cyndi Lauper’s song, “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun” was that too many people wanted to “hide me away from the rest of the world” and I should just go out and “walk in the sun!”

The truth is, I wanna be the one to walk in the sun!  And I know that God wants this for me as well.  I believe he wants this for all of us!  So go shine your light and don’t dim yourself down for anyone!

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So how do we do this – shining our light thing?

Sometimes it can be as easy as smiling at someone.  I have rarely smiled at someone and not had them smile back, even if all they can muster is a little smirk.  Saying good morning to the people you pass on the walking trail is shining our light.   Let’s be honest, we don’t always feel like doing this, especially if some people do not reciprocate our efforts.  However, I have actually made it my purpose before I go for a walk  that I will say good morning to everyone I see with no expectation of the outcome and it buffers those times when someone isn’t ready or capable of expressing back the same salute.

Another way to shine our light, is if we are having any kind of conversation with a cashier, or someone who is in their work place, ask their name and introduce yourself.  People like to be acknowledged and simply asking their name or repeating it occasionally during a short conversation can make them feel seen.

Obviously, when we volunteer or help a friend or help out in our community, we are shining our light.  However, God’s G.P.S. is not complicated.  He will arrange Divine Appointments if we ask him and this may simply be picking up a loose can of vegetables someone dropped in front of us or opening a door for someone.

Often times, this might lead to a short conversation and who knows this other person might illuminate our day instead.  One thing is for sure, what I have learned from this experience is that God is more than willing to bless us – usually unexpectedly – I believe the Big Guy in the Sky loves surprising us.  Maybe because he knows everything that has, is and will happen and he never gets a surprise; he loves to lavish them on us!  I don’t know.  What I know is that rarely have I ever shone my light and not had His light or some illumination return to my own life.

Don’t be afraid!  Go shine your light on someone today and then wait and see how that light bends back towards you!

"Ours is the responsibility to keep our lights bright for others to follow." --Thomas S. Monson #LDS #Mormon

Cyndi Lauper:  Go Walk in the Sun and Have Fun!

 

 

 

 

Hope On A Rope: Are you at the end of yours?

 

 

Are you at the END of your ROPE?

Centuries ago, when a lamb would stray from the flock, sometimes, its Shepherd would purposely maim it and then proceed to carry the lamb over his shoulders until it grew dependent on him.  Then, when it was healed, it would be allowed to walk on its own.  After that, it identified so strongly with its Shepherd that it would never stray from him or the flock again.  It knew that in its need, it was its Shepherd that would take care of it.

Though, at first, it would appear that the suffering that the Shepherd allowed the lamb to go through was painful; it was actually for its own good.  The HOPE that came out of it, was the lamb would never lose its way again and it learned to trust and have CONFIDENCE in the Shepherd’s ability to look after it.

A Year Like No Other

A few years ago, I was that lamb!  And, I suspect that there are a number of “lambs” today that at one time or another or maybe right now, have been broken, lost or have strayed from the flock and might need some help being led back to it.

It was the year of 2007-8.  I had a great deal of disappointment and sad events in my life.  When I look back on them, I’m not even sure how I kept going.  I was going through my 2nd divorce (double feelings of failure!); I had to walk away from my church of two years, and because of my divorce, move out of my home.  Worst of all, I lost my father to a massive heart attack, followed by a week later, having to put down my dog of twelve years, who I loved more than you can possibly know.   I know, it sounds like a bad country song!

I was at the end of my rope!

In fact, not only was I at the end of it, I could not see anything below me or in front of me to grab on to.  There were nights, when I felt like dying.  There were nights when I felt like giving up.  There were nights, when I felt like God had forgotten about me.  And yet, there was always something that got me through and it’s not tangible and it’s not visible.  It’s not even rational or logical: It is a thing, called HOPE.

I never lost HOPE and I’ll tell you why:

I can’t describe it well, except that it was like a little ember deep within me.  It is within all of us – this little flame – that never goes out as long as we have God.  And sometimes, when we are the sheep going along with the flock like we should be, we don’t even know it’s there.

It’s usually in those times, when we get lost and things seem dark and lonely that this little ember is rekindled and grows and burns.  I can honestly say that it has most often been in those moments of deep despair and loneliness that I can feel it the most.  This is why, though it is not fun and sometimes it even makes me angry, I understand that the pain we go through is worth it, simply because we are suddenly made more aware of this thing, called Hope.

We’ve all experienced it.  In a moment of despair or confusion, it can come upon us like a bright light or a warm feeling in the pit of our stomach and suddenly, amidst all of the chaos, we hear ourselves saying, “It IS going to be all right!  I can get through this!  This too shall pass!

Sometimes it doesn’t have to be some huge event that brings us hope and pulls out of our despair.  It can be in the little things we enjoy.   And that is exactly what HOPE is – if it were tangible at all, it would be what we hang on to.  It’s that knot at the END of our ROPE – that CONFIDENT hope that God will make it better, either by easing the pain or giving us the strength to keep going or perhaps, giving us something that we have lost.

And suddenly, amidst our pain, we become aware again of the things or people for whom we still have to live; the goals we still want to accomplish or the dreams we still envision!

Although I lost my marriage, my home, my church, my father and my dog in the span of one year, I gained a great deal.  I gained an unlimited, unshakable feeling of HOPE for my future.  And God is a God of RESTORATION and as the year passed; here is how I was also given physical, tangible hope:

I know for a fact that God not only gives us internal hope in our times of trouble, but he also gives back to us the things that are taken from us.  When my husband left, God gave me something wonderful to focus on – he helped me publish my first novel that year.  When I lost my house, a wonderful apartment in a building where a number of my friends lived became available.  When I had no money to pay for that apartment, God provided a full-time teaching job. When I was alone, He opened doors for me to make new friends.

When I lost my church, God led me to a new one.  When I lost my father, He surrounded me with my six siblings, my mother and my father’s youngest sister, who became and still is a wonderful friend to me and often I can hear my own father’s wisdom and kindness in her words to me and it comforts me greatly.   When I had to put my dog down, God gave me the strength and the peace amidst the sadness.  And of course, another little Maltese came along about two months later, who I named Francesca, because it means “Free one” and I still hold her on my lap as I write this!

In our times of trouble, here is what God wants for us:

God, the source of HOPE, will fill you completely with JOY and PEACE BECAUSE you TRUST in him.  Then you will overflow with CONFIDENT HOPE through the power of the Holy Spirit.” {Romans 15:13}

If you are at the beginning, middle or the end of your rope, though you may not see the ground beneath or be able to grab hold of anything just yet, hang on a little while longer, because threaded through that rope, is God’s HOPE and he will NEVER let go of you, no matter how slack your grip.

I know this now, for sure:  That God loves us and though he does not guarantee we will not go through the rough waters and the fire, he does guarantee that He will not let us drown or get burnt and he will fan the flames of HOPE within us.

The truth is, if our lives were perfect and we were never maimed or in pain, we would never feel the need for our flock or for our Shepherd.  I have found, that it is in those very times of trouble, that we need both.

Being honest and open about our pain is to make us vulnerable and that’s okay.  We are vulnerable, because we are human.  And the other lambs that walk with us; also like to feel needed.  Never underestimate how your needs can make someone else feel like they have a purpose as well.  You may not be the only one who is at the end of your rope and in reaching out, you may be tying a knot in the end of that other person’s rope to help them hang on.

We are the lambs in God’s flock and through our pain, we grow to be strong, while we are resting on his broad shoulders.  God’s unlimited love and grace is the HOPE on my ROPE!

Our Words are Boomerangs: What are You Throwing Back at Yourself?

    Do you know the origin of the boomerang? 



The History of Boomerangs
Contrary to popular belief, the boomerang did not originate in Australia. Historical traces of boomerangs have been found throughout the world. Boomerangs are considered by many to be the earliest “heavier-than-air” flying machines invented by human beings. Australian Aboriginal boomerangs have been found as old as ten thousand years old, but older hunting boomerangs have been discovered throughout Europe. The famed King Tutankhamen of Egypt had an extensive collection of boomerangs over 2000 years ago.   Although historians are not certain of the exact origin of the first boomerang, it is speculated that the boomerang was developed from a flattened throwing stick, used by early hunters. The returning boomerang was most likely discovered by accident by an early hunter trying to fine tune a hunting stick.
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It is interesting that while the boomerang was originally used as a hunting tool; now has become something used for fun.  I think this is apropos in terms of it being symbolic of our words:  They can be used for “hunting” or hurting people; or they can be used for fun, laughter, joy and expressing positive messages.

We need to realize the power of our words (and our thoughts, as they also contain vibrational energy that impacts our environment) and realize that they are boomerangs; which essentially means that whatever we speak out does not come back “void” or “in vain” and affects not only the people and situations in our lives, but ultimately, ourselves and our cells!

The great news is, with this promise from God, we have the power to create, transform and build our own lives:

So will My word be which goes forth from My mouth; It will not return to Me empty, Without accomplishing what I desire, And without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it. For you will go out with joy And be led forth with peace;  {Isaiah 55:11-12}

There are two reasons why many of us do not want to believe that we have the power to change ourselves and our world, with our own words:

Firstly, it would mean taking responsibility for the events, people and situations in our lives at present that we have created through our own thoughts, words, beliefs and behaviours.

Secondly, it would mean that we would have to look within and change something about ourselves – simply, raising our consciousness and let’s face it, we often feel powerless to change or refuse to hold up the magnifying glass in case of what we might see.

According to Emmet Fox (died 1951), who was a New Thought Spiritual Leader,  we do not need to be afraid of change or strive to achieve it IF we have God’s power – the Holy Spirit – at the centre of our lives:

God is not merely a matchless power that will come to our rescue, but He will actually be our own strength, operating through us to the overcoming of difficulty when we call upon Him in the right way.  Every student of Truth must understand that God always acts through us by changing our consciousness. We learn in divine metaphysics that God never does anything to us, or for us, but always through us.  (Emmet Fox)

In other words, God becomes “a very present help in trouble.”  {Psalm 46} and says this to us:  My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. {2 Corinthians 12:9}

The only thing we do need to do is finally wake up and realize the power we have in our thoughts and words and begin to surrender and allow God to do the work, simply by raising up our hands and saying:  “God, I surrender my thoughts and my words up to you, please transform them so that I can be a boomerang of kindness to myself and to others today and every day!”

Let’s make a choice today to be Boomerangs of kindness; not of harm.  For inspiration about how every little act we do becomes a boomerang out into the world, and eventually leads back to us, please watch the following video.  Pay attention to the construction worker at the beginning!  I hope it helps to inspire you today!

The Kindness Boomerang Video:

Surrendering and Listening to Our Bodies

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Depression is defined as:

1.  Severe despondency and dejection, accompanied by feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy.

2.  A condition of mental disturbance, typically with lack of energy and difficulty in maintaining concentration or interest in life.

However, Depression Doesn’t Exist!    

Now that I have your attention and possibly your anger, please, keep reading!  For anyone who experiences depression or has come through it, the feelings associated with it are very real.  However, one of the most valuable lessons I learned from my four years of Gestalt Psycho-therapy training was that depression in and of itself does not exist – it is a mental and physiological response to one of two things:  repressed anger or repressed sadness.  Think of it as holding a ball full of air underneath the water.  Everyone knows that it is difficult to do because the displaced air within the ball forces it to ascend upwards and we have to forcefully hold it to keep it under the water. When we do eventually let it go; it flies out of the water upwards proportionately to how deep we were holding it under.

This is very similar to what happens when we are holding anger or sadness within us – it wants to come up and be expressed – but we may not want to see it on the surface.  The problem with this is, the more we repress our anger or sadness, the less we can actually feel joy or happiness.  This is why it is crucial that we allow our anger and sadness to come to the surface so that our hands – and our entire being – is open to experience the joy and happiness life has to offer as well.

The fact that depression in most cases is a result of holding on to negative feelings – and negative energy – is very good news.  While depression feels like a heavy weight upon our shoulders or quicksand that we feel powerless to become free from – anger and sadness are simply emotions that have been trapped within our bodies in response to an experience – and we can be free of them, which in turn will eventually help lift the feelings associated with our depression.

How do we do this?   

I am certainly not going to advise for or against anti-depressants; but  sometimes they can be a TEMPORARY solution to severe depression until we can process and deal with the sadness or anger in which we are holding.  Times in my life that I have experienced depression I did not take drugs and I was able to work through it and come out the other side and that is what I want to share with you today.   The truth is there is no quick fix to dealing with depression.  If one is in this state, even affirmations and trying to lift our vibrational energy may not work – although they cannot hurt either!

Step # 1We need to first identify what emotion is causing the depression – is it anger or is it sadness?  And very often, even behind our anger lies sadness or disappointment over something that has happened to us.  For example, if someone has said or did something very hurtful to us, we are likely to have felt sadness but masked it with anger very quickly in order to deal with it and ‘feel stronger’.  Often we mask our sadness with anger in order to have the strength to stand up to or say goodbye to a particular person or situation in our lives.  How many times have we thought we originally felt anger towards someone and then a few days later, realize that we are actually sad about what happened?

Step # 2:  What are we feeling sad or angry about? The problem with trying to discover what and why we are feeling what we are is that many times by the time our bodies have gone into a depressed state, the actual original hurt or event has long since passed.  It may even have been something in our childhood originally and has been triggered again by something in our adult lives.

So how on earth do we get to the heart of the issue and figure out how and why we are feeling this way?  It isn’t easy. This is the step at which most people feel the most resistance – especially if the hurt did originate – and most do – in our childhood.  We have buried it so deeply and so strategically in order to not have had to deal with it – usually because we were too young to do so or simply not equipped – that there are a few layers that we have to peel away first.  It is necessary that we realize this is a process – and that is what I want to stress here – growth and healing of any kind is a process.  When we cut our finger, our bodies have a wonderful – some would even say miraculous – ability to heal the wound.  This does not happen overnight however; but we can apply ointments that expedite the process.  This is where therapeutic modalities come in – they can include anything from journaling, talking with a friend, talking with a trained psychologist, E.F.T (Emotional Freedom Technique), Reiki, Acupuncture and many more.  You need to discover which one works best for you. In the meantime, I will share with you some practical techniques you can do in the privacy of your own home.

Step # 3:  Writing to Heal 

I have done this several times and I cannot stress enough how powerful – and effective – a technique it is to get at the heart of many of our repressed emotions and physical ailments.  What we do is actually journal with the Depression – almost as if it is a person – or the physical issue – directly.  Why not give it a try? If it doesn’t work then you haven’t lost anything; if it does, I would love to hear back from you as to how it helped.

Dear Depression: 

You have taken over my body, slowed me down, made me feel lethargic and really awful some days.  You must be doing this for a reason.  Please, what is it that you are trying to tell me?  What real emotions are you trying to hold onto for me?  I know you are not my enemy.  I know that you are attempting to protect me from my real emotions.  Please help me to figure out what these are.

Take a few seconds and then respond from the Depression’s point of view – in other words, give it a voice.

Dear (Your Name):

Here is where you allow – freely and without judgement – your Depression (and you do not have to be severely depressed at all, you may just simply feel down or not so great) tell you what is really going on with you.  You may be surprised by what it tells you or it may make a lot of sense.  The trick is to allow it a voice.

This is the same for ailments in the body – another manifestation of repressed hurts, emotions or beliefs that have surfaced in a physical form.  It does not matter if this is a small annoyance such as a hemorrhoid or if it is cancer.  Our bodies are the mediator between our core inner self – our subconscious – and our minds.  They are constantly giving us messages. When our leg falls asleep and we begin to feel pins and needles, our body is communicating to us that we need to move and stop cutting off the blood supply to our extremities.  Why does it do this?  To protect us.  Why do our bodies develop “dis – ease”?  Because we are “out” of “ease” with our true selves and our bodies want to return to homeostasis and ease again – and it will help us do this if we are willing to give it a voice.

Dear Hemorrhoid/ Dear Cancer:  Again, allow yourself to be really honest about how you are feeling towards it.  Maybe you hate your cancer or your disease.  Tell it that.  It can handle it because it is in your body to tell you something as well.  Then let it.

Give your depression, anger, sadness and your pain – whether it be emotional or physical, a VOICE today.  Let it communicate to you in plain language what it has been trying to tell you silently.  Once you “hear” it – you may well be on your way to recovery and freedom.

Below is a website that delineates the Myths and Facts regarding Depression:   

http://www.webmd.com/depression/ss/slideshow-depression-myths

Transforming Our Selves by Transforming Our Cells!

Death and life are in the power of the tongue {Proverbs 18:21} 

Do we truly understand the power of our words over own cellular make-up and ultimately our lives? 

Many people refer to the belief that we can heal our own bodies and create our lives by our thoughts, words and actions as “new age”.

There is nothing new about this knowledge:  In fact, this wisdom has been in existence as long as humankind has, in terms of what our divine creator has been telling us:

And God said, let the earth bring forth grass, the herb yielding seed, and the fruit tree yielding fruit after his kind whose seed is in itself, upon the earth:  and it was so.  And the earth brought forth grass and herb yielding seed after his kind, and the tree yielding fruit, whose seed was in itself, after his kind: and God saw that it was good {Genesis 1:11-12}

Our divine creator spoke out what he wanted to create and it came to pass.  He spoke out only good; pure, wonderful things and that’s what came into existence.  This same message is throughout scripture; that we do indeed have the power to create both good and bad within our own bodies and our lives; and therefore we need to take great care about how and what we speak.

So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things.  How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire. {James 3:5}

Our Divine creator has also taught us that what we think becomes our words and our words become our actions and our actions then create our lives.  Therefore, even the smallest of things we say, positive or negative can start a “blazing fire” in our lives.   However, if we pay attention to what we think; we will actually have to worry less about what comes out of our mouths:

A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. {Luke 6:45}

Have you ever asked yourself what you think in your heart?  Of yourself?  Of your neighbour? Of your job? Of your life partner?  Of the world?

This is extremely important; because even if you learn to love yourself; you also need to love your neighbour – even if he’s cantankerous and blows his leaves on your lawn after you’ve finished mulching all of your own.  Yes, I might be referring to one of my past neighbours, but I swear I’ve forgiven him!

Why?  Because whatever you think in your heart about others; so are you.  Even if you treat yourself and your family well; but hate or curse your neighbour, (or co-worker) your thoughts and words not only affect him or her – and keep them trapped in the same patterns of behaviour – they also affect you.

We are made up of approximately 100 trillion cells and each one has an intelligence – and each one contains our complete genetic makeup.   So if we were to take just one cell from our body – and Bruce Lipton, a former University of Wisconsin professor of cellular biology, turned writer and healer, did just this – we would have our entire genetic composition of “who” we are in that one cell.  It contains everything about us.

Think of 100 trillion little versions of you all working together in a symbiotic, wonderful tapestry.  What would you say to each one of these trillion cells if you could talk to them?  Would you curse them?  Criticize them?  Berate them?  Keep exposing them to toxic people, environments or situations?  Keep repeating to them that they are sick, cursed, not working well, or in pain?  I doubt it!

So, why do we often do this to our entire being?

We begin to feel sick and what do we do?  We consistently repeat that we are not feeling well, or are about to get sick, not only to ourselves, but to our family, our coworkers and heck, to just about anyone we meet on the street whose willing to listen to our “cold” woes!

When we first think it or say it, what do our 100 trillion cells and their infinite intelligence do?  They do what they are divinely programmed to do – to send out messages to our white blood cells to heal us.

However, each time we speak that we are sick, getting sick, in pain, have this or that ailment – even when we constantly repeat a diagnosis we are given by a medical doctor, our 100 trillion cells also hear this and begin to “believe” it and this actually blocks our immune system from healing us.

Our cells, though they are fighting like crazy to keep us in optimal health and in symbiosis, every time we speak to them that we are sick – whatever it be, a cold, cancer, blood disease – they are not only being blocked from doing their divine work – they are also being programmed by us to receive negative messages and to allow these illnesses to linger and wreak havoc in our bodies! And do you know what these “ill” cells do?  They take pleasure in taking over the healthy cells.  Don’t believe me?  Read the article below that illustrates how scientists have found smiley faces in cancer cells!

I instead, like to imagine each of my little cells that huddle together and call themselves ‘me’ as healthy, little smiley faces; all brimming with life and hope and innocence, ready to perform their daily functions; only requiring one thing from me:  To extend them love and respect for what they do for me every day by how I think about them; speak over them and to what I expose them.

Now, you might think I’ve lost a few of these cells in my brain and only have a few marbles rolling around upstairs as you read what I’m writing in this post.  However, there is NOW scientific proof of three wonderful things and you can read about them in either of Bruce Lipton’s Biology of Belief or in Joe Dispenza’s book,  Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself:

1.  Disease is NOT genetic!

2.  Our cells regenerate at the rate of 10, 000 per second (which means we are not the “same” person we were, even a week ago, unless of course we keep telling all of our wonderful new cells the old, limiting stories we told our previous ones.)

3.  We have the power to prevent illness and injury; and to heal ourselves, one beautiful, little smiling cell at a time!

Bruce Lipton, author of Biology of Belief, (please see video below to understand the science behind his theories) who once prescribed to the scientific belief – and taught it to medical students for years – that disease is genetic, actually proved himself, and the whole scientific community as we know it – wrong.

He discovered that when he took one “ill” cell from a cancer patient’s body and put it in a petri dish and into a “positive” or neutral environment; that cell began to heal itself and became healthy again.  When he returned that cell to the negative, (sick) environment from which it originally came; it began to show signs of illness once again.

From his extensive findings, he has come to the conclusion that disease is in fact, not genetic but comes about by people being exposed to prolonged negative or toxic environments.  The clincher is that some were not “in” a toxic environment in terms of their family or work; but simply thought, spoke and acted negatively towards themselves, others or their external environment on a consistent basis; hence, exposing their 100 trillion cells every day to a toxic “home” – their own bodies!  Life or death IS IN the tongue!

The cells were being programmed to receive negative messages and therefore, were in a constant state of stress and began to “search for” or mutate themselves into a physiological state better able (tougher, if you will) to survive in this negative environment.  In other words, if we bombard ourselves – our cells – with toxic energy, the positive cells, in order to survive, actually mutate to a negative or toxic state in order to “fit in” with their environment.  What are diseased cells – particularly cancer – if not, very resistant, stubborn and “fighters” for what they want, which is to take over the body and survive anyway that they can?

We understand this in the sense that we have clichés that state:  one bad apple ruins the whole barrel or we hear people say:  That person has gone off the straight and narrow path, because he’s been hanging out with the wrong crowd!   Essentially, we have seen time and again how a person becomes like the people he spends time with.

Movies base their whole plot around this concept that we as humans have a natural propensity to change ourselves – our thoughts, words and behaviours in order to “fit in” within a group or even our environment in order to survive.  If our entire beings do this; why would we not believe our individual cells that make us up, have the same propensity?

It is difficult for us to get our heads around the fact that we have the power to negatively or positively change or alter the state of our own cells, because it means taking full responsibility for our beliefs and mindsets, thoughts, words and actions and the environment in which we choose to expose our trillion cells to every day.

This is fantastic news however; because if we have the power to transform or mutate our cells negatively; we have the exact opposite power – to transform and heal our cells positively!

If you cannot wrap your head around this scientifically, then let me help you in terms of what Jesus said to his disciples when they were worried about the kinds of things they should or should not eat and Jesus tells them that it is NOT what goes into the mouth of a person, but what comes out of a person’s mouth:

It is the thought-life that pollutes.  For from within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts of lust, theft, murder, adultery,  wanting what belongs to others, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, pride, and all other folly.  All these vile things come from within; they are what pollute you and make you unfit for God.  {Mark 7:20}

For over 2000 years – again this wisdom is NOTHING new – we have had this knowledge at our finger tips.

Isn’t it time, we began to not only believe God and what he’s been telling us for centuries and begin to realize that:

As I think in my heart; so am I {Proverbs 23:7}

Perhaps we need to ask, in what areas in our heart do we need to begin to think and speak differently, especially towards ourselves – our cells – and of course, the world around us?  Start speaking love, peace and healing over yourself and over the world – focus and speak out what IS right within it – and stop giving power to all of the negative that the media presents to us every day.

Are our 100 trillion cells not worth the effort to think, speak and act in accordance with what is pure and lovely and praiseworthy when they work so hard for us every single day?  Imagine if our body creates 10, 000 new cells every second; that if we start right this minute thanking them, speaking kind loving words over them, how much better we will feel by the end of the day today and how much positive transformation we could produce in our bodies and in our lives in just one month or one year? So what are you feeding your beautiful 100 trillion cells every day?   The power is within us, not without!

To quote Morgan Freeman in the film, Shawshank Redemption, are we going to “get busy living; or get busy dying”?

Bruce Lipton’s Biology of Belief:

Smiley faces in cancer cells article:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2087723/Researchers-spot-smiley-face-cancer-cell-Happy-face-forms-lab-created-tumour.htmlhttp://